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Welcome To Our Site
Let me start this site off by saying welcome, you are here because you or your partner has been wrongfully accused of a sexual crime. You are not on your own; there are thousands every year like yourself.
I was one and can I say before we start. This web site is for help and support for the victims and families of false sexual accusations. If I pick up on any illegal activity on this site I will report your IP address. This is a support site not a haven for the guilty to hide.
Now I have got that off my chest welcome here you will find a forum, a chat area, and a guest book, I will be looking for volunteers to help in this sites running. I am a web site designer by trade but now I work 70 hours a week so I really can’t look after this site on my own. My wife will check in now and then in the forums but I'm sure we will get some moderators.
We live in a society where a man can’t feel safe to go near a playground or become a teacher or anything to do with children. Male teachers are very few and far between, and if a couple want to foster a child they can, if a single man wants to foster it’s a no no. I know because I was refused. I was told to get a partner first, whether it be man or woman. So 2 men can foster but not one.
It's getting harder and more uncomfortable being a man; I was falsely accused of sexual assault because I upset a child by shouting at her.
I was cleared and all was ok but there is no way now i would be in a position where i can be on my own with another child, I used to be an entertainer (entertained both adults and children.) but no more I've lost my confidence and no longer want to do it this web site has been set up between me and my wife to point people in the right direction my story is in the forums written by me and one version by my wife Diana so if u feel on your own you are not there are people out there to help and I hope this web site is one place.
Thank you for reading
Mike n Diana 
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Our story
From a wife of an accused man
It was the 8th April 2007 Easter Sunday morning my husband and I were in bed, the phone rang my husband answered it and said its for you, I took the phone off him and familiar vice said " something has happened and you need to come round ASAP" it was my daughters friends mum (my daughters friend had slept at our house on the Friday night). My heart sank, I don't know why but I knew what I was about to face when I got there, when I did reach her house I sat on the settee and A?????? had been crying I said "whatever is the matter" A????? (the mother) said your husband has been touching my child, I asked to speak to the child and she told me that my husband had pulled her trousers down and smacked her bum, the child was 10 at the time, I was absolutely gob smacked and in shock at this point A?????'s husband and her brother wanted to go round to my house to beat my husband up but I stopped them because there were four children in my house my two and my husbands two, G????, A?????s brother was hell bent on calling the police I tried to talk him out of but he was on a witch hunt,
anyway the police were called and I stayed in the house because I wanted to know what was being said the child told the police exactly what she had told me, that was it the police went round to my house, I followed by the time I had got there my husband was already in handcuffs and being taken out the house, the police then preceded to take all the bedding the girls had been sleeping on my husbands daughter had been sleeping on the bottom bunk, my daughter and her friend had been sleeping on the top bunk they took everything, they also took the computers we had in the house I just wanted to scream "STOP IT MY HUSBAND IS NOT CAPABLE OF ANYTHING LIKE THAT SHE IS A LYING LITTLE COW!" but of course you cant you have to sit there quietly while the police do their thing, the police van with my husband in was still parked at the front of our house, when they had finished they just went, my life had started to fall apart it felt like someone was ripping my heart out with a spoon i spent about two hours crying.
When I finally pulled my self together I started to gather all the facts. I knew the girl had crush on my husband and I had already said to him Friday tea time don't be on your own with her because it was an accident waiting to happen everywhere he went she followed, I got the children together and asked what happened yesterday morning when you dad came into your room (this was on the Saturday morning before Easter Sunday) I asked my husbands daughter first who was 12 at the time and she said "he came into the room and he said "right come on everybody up I have a lot to do today" but she wasn't feeling well so he sat on the bottom bunk with her gave her a cuddle and said that if she wasn't feeling any better later on he would take her to the doctors, he then stood up pulled the quilt off my daughters friend who was on the top bunk and said "come on j????? I have a lot to do today I haven't got the time to be messing about waiting for you" he then went down stairs and that was it till I got the phone call on the Sunday morning but what I didn't understand and still don't to this day is if my husband had humiliated her in my house on Saturday morning why then did she go home get changed and got in the car with him and rest of the kids and went into the town centre Saturday afternoon it was n the town that he shouted at her for slapping my daughter across the arm, which Is why I think she took her revenge by accusing him of doing something he didn't do.
My husband was arrested at 11am Sunday morning by 2pm the jungle drums had started and my husband was a paedophile, people turn into the devil when something like that is said about someone but when your on the receiving end it makes you feel like your on your own everyone was talking about it friends and family included but not one of them came to see if me or the kids were ok, my husband was released at 11.30 pm the same night 12 hours in custody, he had been bailed for 4 weeks, he came home shaking and crying he was mortified, a broken man he had gone from being confident and full of himself to a shrivelled up wreck
On Monday morning he wouldn't get out of bed because he said everybody thinks I'm a paedophile he just wanted to curl up and die, as I did as well, so I told him to get out of bed and start packing, I made the decision to go to my sisters 180 miles away in Oxfordshire so we bundled the four kids and anything we could carry into the car and away we went….while we were at my sisters the police rang me and made an appointment for the children to attend a video interview so I took my daughter and my son to the video interview centre, where the social service were waiting for me I was told by them my husband had to remove himself from our family home or she would get a child protection order and have my children removed, I was absolutely fuming at this point al I kept thinking was what sort of a mother do they think I am I would die for my kids and I certainly wouldn't let anyone else harm them, just when I thought things couldn't get any worse they did. so I went back to my sisters on my own with my children, my husband stayed with my mum 180 miles away and praying for the for date when his bail was up, he went back to the police station and they bailed him again for another 4 weeks they did this a further 3 times so we were actually apart for 5 months, then when he told me they were not charging him I was ecstatic we got a house and started living as a family again.
While all this was going on I had absolutely nowhere to turn, no-one to talk to every web site I went told stories of men who have been charged without any evidence what so ever just on the word of a child, the authorities view of this is that children don't tell lies well "hello" what planet are you on, of course they tell lies…. our lives have been turned upside down, abuse being shouted at my children in the street, my husband being branded a paedophile, the person that told the lies and especially her mum and dad who made everything 100 times worse in my mind should all be burned at the stake, but sadly we don't live in a society that condones that kind of thing. The thing that upsets me the most is that they are sitting pretty, nothing in their lives has been altered everything is still the same these poor excuses for human beings should be punished, making false statements, wasting police time, using up resources that could have been used for a genuine case, they are worse than the rats that rummage about in the rubbish, I am still very bitter and resentful but try not to let it take over my life.
We set up this web site to help you and give you somewhere to vent your anger and frustration because believe me I know exactly how you feel.
KEEP YOUR CHIN UP
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We Asked Some Members If The Site Helped
Hello Mike
It helped some. I was looking for my brother as his wife accused him of physical abuse when he told her he was leaving and going to get a divorce. Your website did provide some helpful guidelines and I appreciate all your work you are doing on this issue.
S. H.
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Hi Mike
I found the site useful simply because it was helpful to talk to people who've had similar experiences. But to be honest I've had such a horrible five weeks that I really can't remember the detail of what happened when I went on your site. The police in C************ claim to operate a "must arrest" policy. In other words, once my ex had rung them and claimed I'd physically hurt her they were duty bound to arrest me. However, when I rang them and offered to show them an e-mail in which my ex admits hitting me on two, separate, detailed occasions, they weren't interested in seeing it. So their "must arrest" policy is in reality a "must arrest men" policy.
I find this deeply frustrating. It's bad enough being falsely accused of violence and spending 15 hours in a police cell as a result. It's even worse when you're not only innocent of committing violent acts but the victim of regular violence from your accuser. And as far as I can tell, the authorities don't give a shit.
All the best .... W.H
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» Fathers Rights |
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 There is a movie that a father's rights advocate just created called, "A Father's Rights." The movie is very professionally made, with Hollywood-grade quality. The trailer alone is compelling drama, and it presents the perspective of the father favorably as he navigates the insanity of the family court and his abusive Ex. Based on the trailer, I would say that the acting is also superb, and the footage captures not just the political aspects surrounding the father's rights cause, but also the sexual dynamics between men and women. This movie appears to be spot-on. I am amazed that something of this quality is being produced by someone sympathetic to our underfunded movement. But for once, we have someone with a gift for cinematic story telling who has stuck out his neck and made a film that is worthy of our support.
The trailer is here:
http://g2rdistribution.com/afr.trailer.html
The Web site about the movie, where you can purchase the full video for only $15.00 USD, is here:
http://g2rdistribution.com/
We need to be blogging about this movie. I also believe it's worth every penny for each and every one of us to consider buying a copy. What an outstanding contribution to the father's movement.
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» What to do if falsely accused. |
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What to do if falsely accused.
First of all, if you are accused of child abuse, either sexual or physical, do not talk to anyone without a solicitor present. The Police will try every trick in the book to get you to incriminate yourself. From the ubiquitous good cop, bad cop routine to physical threats, psychological manipulation like promises of going home to your loved ones to threats of never being allowed to see them again. And all manner of other sneaky and nefarious tricks in their arsenal of "fair evidence gathering and interrogation techniques"
Record everything you can remember about what you were doing, where you were etc in the time leading up to the allegations. Also be prepared, from now on, to keep meticulous records of your future movements. Times, dates, location etc. It could all help in your defence case.
Try to figure out in your own mind, what could possibly have happened to cause the child to turn against you. Question, or have questioned on your behalf, friends, neighbours, teachers, social workers, family doctor etc to try and build up a profile of the sort of life your child is or has been living, and that you were unaware of.
Gather around you if possible, people who believe in you, and more importantly, in your innocence. Right now, you can't have to many friends.
Have no faith in the British Justice System, because none exists, and prepare yourself mentally to become the latest victim of false conviction.
Please, DO NOT accept responsibility No matter what the police say in the interview they might say was it possable that you may have done somthingmy mistake IF YOU ARE UNSURE, SAY YOU ARE UNSURE DO NOT COMMIT TO AN ANSWER YOU DONT KNOW.
If your barrister says you have no grounds with which to appeal, don't accept this as cast in stone. That is only their opinion. Some barristers also have an ulterior motive for not appealing a conviction. They want to become judges themselves and would not dream of criticising a judge's summing up in case it hinders their progress up their judicial career ladder. Fortunately, there are decent barristers out there who will take your case on. You may need to change your defence team or retain the services of the one you already have. In either case, you can contact www.appealpanel.org for further advice."
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